I swear the clock ticks faster as one grows older. It is hard to believe that I have been writing the Diamond Matchmaker column for four years! It has been a wonderful experience for me, and I have enjoyed every minute of it.
My Chinese education ceased after high school. Although I’m not exactly illiterate, my standard of written Chinese is by no means polished enough for a columnist. My first thank you must go to ET Net for their gracious offer to translate all my articles. Without this help the column would not have been possible. The quality of their translations is superb, and consistently so. In this day and age where language is so often butchered and debased by digital jargon and pop culture, to the extent of becoming partially if not wholly unintelligible, I salute the editorial team’s prolific literary skills and feel flattered that they have been translating my writings for four long years.
This column has provided me with the opportunity to meet other columnists, and we have from time to time hosted joint events and TV shows. Not only were these a lot of fun, but I have also through them made some precious friends whom I’d like to thank for their collaboration.
During my time with Et Net, I have written more than 100 articles on relationship issues for the column, and from these I have since published a little over half in book form. My first volume of Navigating Relationships appeared in 2014, and the second will follow this final article to commemorate the end of this four-year tenure. These books will be given to clients, to people who attend my talks and seminars, and either donated or sold to raise funds for local charities.
But it is you, my dear readers, who have been the raison d’être of my column and the inspiration for the material that has filled these books, and I wish to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the staunch support you have given me throughout. I hope you have found my articles enjoyable and helpful, if not all the time, at least some of the time. You have voted me one of the top ten columnists in Hong Kong and I am greatly humbled by this honour. I regret I did not have the time to interact more with you all and to answer your mail. It is a sorrowing fact that I can never find enough time to do all the things I would like to do.
In my article “Balancing Love and Career”, I emphasized how important it is to have at least half of each day just for ourselves. This time is ours, and excludes the time we spend at work, play and love. My advice was this:
“Above all, learn to say NO. With a meagre twelve hours a day to spare, be mindful of who or what is consuming your precious time and why. Any disproportionate demand may require an honest re-evaluation and adjustment, be it your career, relationship, hobby or the lifestyle you’d like to maintain…”
All too aware that there are so many things I enjoy doing and not enough hours in a day to do them in, I shall take a page from my own column and now strive hard to find more time to spend with my husband!
Once again, I thank you, my readers, for your kind support of me.