感謝經濟通邀請我開設專欄，在網上與各位讀者交流。對於獲得公眾的認同，我感到非常鼓舞。在此深切感謝大家對我的支持！

 

　　《盛女愛作戰》播出以來，我收到超過一萬封電郵，雖然這並不只是一個「解救單身盛女」的專欄，但由於不少人對媒人這行業存在誤解，亦不瞭解婚姻介紹所的作用，故我認為在專欄開始前，有必要先解答幾個最常被問及的問題。日後我會專注和大家談談兩性關係，及如何覓得美好姻緣。

 

……這些是我的條件，你可以幫我找一個老公嗎？

　　答案是不可以的，我們不能為你找「老公」，事實上除了盲婚啞嫁之外，沒有人可以幫你找「老公」。「相睇」並不是單方面想要誰就有誰，除了你想外，還要看對方的意願。

 

　　我們不是賣「男人」，不會把他們當做貨品推銷，我們賣的是「機會」！首先，我們會搜羅一些質素高、年紀相若、且認真地尋找生活伴侶的單身男子，再與他們溝通；了解他們的背景後，才會把他們介紹給我們認為合適的人。

 

　　不過，我們不可能令他們喜歡你，更不可能要求他娶你！須知道，要做到這一點，就只能靠你自己。

 

　　婚姻介紹所只是尋找伴侶的開始，不是終點。我們扮演的是協助者、導師、教練和夥伴，而你自己亦要作好準備，才會有機會找到心儀的伴侶。

 

聽聞婚姻介紹所收費很高，你們的收費是多少？

　　98%的男士認為我們收費公平合理。相反，女士卻抱有不同意見。曾有一位挽著Dior袋、腳踏Manolo Blahnik鞋的女顧客抱怨我們的收費太貴，很明顯，大家心中標準不一。

 

　　我們會根據你的年齡、擇偶條件提供不同的計劃。如果你試過從獵頭公司招聘中高級行政人員，你便會發現我們的收費其實很便宜，因為我們收費比本地主要獵頭公司低。

 

你們是不是只選大學畢業生？為甚麼？

 

　　我們以質素為先，而不是以數量，我們不想以金錢作為衡量標準，所以我們便選了教育程度，但這個標準並非絕對，會按個別情況而定。上星期，我們接到一位男顧客，他以前家境清窮，為了生計，中學未完成便被迫出外工作。及後他上夜校及透過遙距課程學習，發奮圖強，白手起家，現在他已成為一位成功人士。

 

你從哪裏找到高質素的單身男士？

 

　　香港有七百萬人口，只以百分之一計就有七萬人。我相信超過百分之一的單身男士正在尋找伴侶，我們只需留意，便可找到高質素的單身男士。女顧客當中，百分之七十是來自網上登記，百分之五是來自別人的介紹。一般來說，男士多數不喜歡朋友或親戚介紹自己到婚姻介紹所的。

 

　　故此，如果你很關心某人的感情生活，而你覺得這位朋友會從我們的服務中得益，只要給他我們的網址便可。

 

為甚麼具高質素的單身人士需要你的服務呢？

 

　　簡單來說就是節省時間和減少不必要的麻煩，大多數商務人士或行政人員工作極繁忙，更有不少要經常出差。事實上，很多人會透過招聘顧問聘請秘書、透過地產代理找合適的居所、透過旅行社買機票去旅行等等，為甚麼他們不透過婚姻介紹所尋找自己伴侶呢？難道伴侶不是比秘書、住所和旅行更重要嗎？

 

         （按：中文內容乃翻譯及撮寫版本）

 

　　I am grateful for the opportunity ET Net has given me to address the viewers & readers. I feel encouraged by the public consensus, humbled by your recognition, and profoundly indebted to you all for your overwhelming support.

 

　　In the course of the last few weeks, we have received over ten thousand emails and although this is not an “agony aunt” column, I do think it appropriate to start by answering a few of the most often asked questions:

 

…These are my criteria; can you find me a husband?

　　No, we cannot find you “a husband”; in fact nobody can unless through an arranged marriage. Matching is not just about whom you want; it is about whom you want who also wants you!

 

　　We don’t “sell men” as a commodity, we “sell opportunities”. Yes, we find decent, age-appropriate, legally single men who are seriously looking for life partners, interview them & conduct background checks before sending them your way. But, we cannot make them marry you, we can’t even make them like you! The only person who can make it happen is you and you alone! Going to a matchmaker is not the end of your search, it is the beginning. We’ll act as your facilitator, mentor, coach & companion, but you still have to do it all by yourself. 

 

We heard you are very expensive? How much do you charge?

　　98% men find us extremely fair & very reasonable. Women however, have a different sense of value. We have clients coming in with Dior handbags and Manolo Blahnik shoes and complained that our prices are too high – obviously different priorities.

 

　　We have many different plans so it would depend on your age, criteria, and requirements. If you were to compare our fees to that of recruitment services’ and looking to fill a position by placing a HK$60.- classified ad in the papers, yes, you would probably find us very expensive. But if you were looking for a middle/senior executive through a headhunter, you will find us very cheap, cause our rates are much lower than that of HK’s major  head-hunters’ .

 

Is it true that you only take university graduates? Why?

　　Our business model is quality based and not quantity based, and as such we need to establish a tangible, fundamental standard for initial assessment and then build on it. Personality traits though important, are intangible, and since we do not wish to use money as a standard, we have chosen education instead. It is not to say that non-university graduates will categorically be rejected, these too, will be on a case by case situation. We took on a gentleman last week whose family was extremely poor; he had to work and did not finish high school. He had since caught up by attending evening schools & distance learning and is today, a very successful self made man. We respect him for the person he is and are proud to be at his service.

 

Where do you find so many high quality men?

　　There are 7 million people in Hong Kong; just 1% is already 70,000. I can assure you that single men looking for life partners in HK are well over 1%, so we just have to stay focused. With women, 70% come to us via voluntary online registrations, 30% through referrals. With men, 95% come to us via online registrations, only 5% through referrals. Generally speaking, men do not like to be referred to a matchmaker by a friend or relative. So if you care about someone and think he can benefit from our service, just give him our website. He has to want to do it himself, otherwise there is no point.

 

Why would a high caliber bachelor need your service?

　　Primarily to save time and hassle, most of them being extremely busy at work, many are frequent travelers. We also help them stretch beyond their normal circles of friends & acquaintances, thereby increasing their opportunities to meet people from different walks of life. After all, we go to the employment agent to hire a secretary, to the real estate agent to find an apartment, to the travel agent to book a holiday…Why shouldn’t they go to a matchmaker to find a wife? Isn’t that more important than a secretary, an apartment or a holiday? We do it professionally, full time and on purpose, sure beat them trying to do it half heartedly, part time, by chance.

 

 

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